We Remember Our First Performance In Our School

Aditi Rao Hydari.


Adversity teaches you a lot if you allow it to and accept it, and with acceptance you can turn things around… I’ve seen it happen. It helps, and you never feel defeated! Aditi Rao Hydari. You make the clothes you wear fashionable, not vice versa. Whenever being yourself and enjoying what you wear, fashion should not be a burden, Fashion to me is about being effortless. In fact my mum had been wearing handloom saris with unmatched blouses since I was a baby, it has become cool only now! On p of that, my love for handicrafts and handloom is because I saw it all around me, and because of my mother’s interest in it.

Both of you are artistes, and very sensitive to your culture. That is certainly very inspiring, Indian culture is pluralistic, diverse, fluid, spiritual, playful, rich and full of possibilities. Do you know an answer to a following question. In an era of westernization, what inspires you to keep it alive day after day, and take it to the world? Although, I think Amma has answered this better than I ever can. Aditi Rao Hydari.

Having said that, my culture is precious to me.


How do you both influence each other? On p of that, my tradition is the soil from which I draw my strength and my sense of identity. Basically, it teaches me humility and surrender. It allows you to be yourself, to find your soul within the form rigours and its apparent boundaries. What have you both have learnt from each other and incorporated in your personal lives? As a result, fluid, cultural stream, and to share that joy through my performances, this is what I can call the perfect life, to be a part of this incessant. Besides, is always found within the ragas space, it teaches me that true freedom isn’t anarchic. It is so rich, fluid, playful, and yet so meditative.

Aditi Rao Hydari. Whenever shopping trips, concerts, there are pots and pots of exciting herbal teas being brewed over loads of chatting, amma makes p teas. She just cannot get why my new jeans are so torn, we share a lot of interests. To literally feel like the sky is the limit. To be empowered by this diversity that exists in each one of us. Our home is always open to people, and my friends drop by quite often. Basically, to embrace the many layers and diverse identities and traditions that make us who we are. Of course, aditi Rao Hydari.

Aditi Rao Hydari.


There would always be music in our home and around us in the community we grew up in. It is about the people more than the place, but yes, a summer vacation in London helps, anywhere really. Furthermore, cafes, theatre, shopping, visits to the organic market, runs at the Hyde park, and boxes of cherries, some for our tummies, and the rest for our faces! We never had any formal music lessons or vocal lessons until more recently but our parents encouraged us to sing loud and clear and learn new songs. Considering the above said. Music was just in our blood, We grew up surrounded by music of all kinds.

We are all super simple people. On an ordinary day, we laze around the house, do our laundry, read books, cook, water plants or spring clean, or do our grocery shopping. If you could spend a day gether in any world part, apart from home, where would you like to spend it and why? We also catch up on our correspondences, chit chat with our parents or hang out with friends, watch a movie or go out for a snack and some window shopping.

It is most unreal.


The foremost feelings that I associate with my childhood is happiness and freedom. Aditi Rao Hydari. We are growing from school variety shows to curated shows abroad and sharing our experiences as icons to hopefully inspire young people to follow their dreams. I loved to play, scrape my knees, ride my bicycle, eat Churan and Tamarind till my throat went sore, Riyaz, went to dance class, and was surrounded by story books. On p of this, we have grown wiser and yet remain our childlike selves in the spaces in between. That’s what we are and we don’t know otherwise. We might be polar opposites and yet in the next minute, should do anything to make the other smile or feel more comfortable, This sacred bond and close friendship that we distinctly different individuals share amazes us.

From a young age, we were introduced to our folk culture and stories, and we loved it.


We could draw parallels to other cultures as well and learned to appreciate differences. Then, we love sharing about our people, and our songs help up share the stories worth retelling. Oftentimes we take immense pride in the fact that while we led lives simplest as farmers surviving through year after year of sowing and harvesting just enough for our families, we found time to sing songs about the beauty of nature, her generosity, her strength, and on p of that about the unremarkable but happy village people. It’s amazing that our people could celebrate life in all its forms without discrimination of class or caste, and stay content and happy in simplicity and with wisdom.

We learned early on, that life has more to do with what you grow into rather than where you were born or how you were born.


It is about living a full life. Consequently, we all share the belief that life is full of surprises and that good doesn’t always happen to good people when they want it but then, blessings come in all forms and God is always in control and prayers get answered, one way or the other. Our parents always taught us that we are what we want to become and they allowed us to grow wings and fly and explore the world and find ourselves.

They also agree with us that life is more than all that, they do worry about us just like all parents do, especially when it comes to financial security and social conformity.

If you feel that this video content violates Use Adobe Terms, you may report this content by filling out this quick form. Aditi Rao Hydari. I lecture her and bully her. I’m quite jumpy and Amma is calm, but our shared energy is a bunch of fun, we have different energies. That is only because I never want her to be unhappy or uncomfortable about anything!

While loving and gentle, she is strong, capable.


This is the most significant teaching I have received from my Buddhist guru, and have tried, through thought, word and deed, to instil in Aditi. She also loved animals and wasn’t afraid of petting dogs and cats that she met at friends’ houses. Seriously. She is, by the way, an excellent and creative cook! Remember, with my help she would cook the rotis. Bedtime was always story time, Aditi loved stories. Fact, whenever naming each shape as she did so, she would take small bits of atta and roll out tiny rotis of different shapes. Whenever loving and sensitive child, above all, she was an affectionate.

Vidya Rao and Aditi Rao Hydari, mother and daughter, singer and actor, respectively, have walked life journey handinhand. Whenever enacting any story that was read out to her, even as a child, she loved to dance and sing, and was a natural actor. Actually, she would, soon after hearing a small Aalaap, start singing a composition in that Raga. In a tete a tete with Prism, they open up about culture, adversity, relationship, and identity… Vidya Rao. Just think for a moment. Aditi being drawn to the performing arts. It came to her naturally and instinctively.

Aditi Rao Hydari.


From my mother, I have learnt to be happy while being your unique self, to not be herd part, to live, love and experience with a full heart, and without judgement. It’s never weighed heavily on her, my mother is amid the most beautiful women I know. A well-known fact that is. That makes her even more special and beautiful inside out!

It is a way for us to express ourselves and this we do in what we wear for our performances too, We are all fond of clothes and putting gether different looks.


We also wear plenty of handwoven weaves of organic cotton and handstitched or knitted woollen clothing, silk and vegetable dyed natural fabrics in a variety of colours. We have also been exploring other tribes of Nagaland and the colour trail led to elements from all over India North East, and now to craft and textile traditions from quite a bit of the country including Rajasthan and Gujarat, We have been exploring themes and colours from our tribe, Chakhesang Naga, that primarily includes shades of blackish, orange, yellowish, indigo and almost white with splashes of greenish. Did you hear about something like that before? We prefer our personal staples for daily wear which is light grey, whitish, grey, and purple.

Us four have grown individually and gether over the years, professionally and in our relationship with each other, and the world… We are all very different and have varied interests.


Music is always there in some way or the other. Notice, our parents also help us keep the peace, and when it comes to a vote, majority always wins. We are pretty accommodating and flexible individuals so we deal with our differences amicably. I’m sure you heard about this. There are fiery exchanges sometimes but in the end, we are a family and we stick with each other, encourage and nurture. a few of us would love to teach or write or research full time. Have you heard about something like this before? Perhaps something in public health or community service. Something to do with the arts or fashion or textile designing. a few of us would also be happy to be in hospitality or travel/tourism or managing a small venture with a female workforce.

The music we create and sing now reflects our upbringing and in addition our present realities. We appreciate honesty and try to live honest lives. The music we create and sing now reflects our upbringing as well as our present realities. We still uphold very similar values, respect nature and are doing best in order to help preserve nature by living simple but good lives. Hard work, sincerity, respect for elders, care for younger ones, wisdom, beauty, generosity, hospitality, perseverance, courage and advocating those rights who don’t have a voice are all what we strive for in our daily lives. We appreciate honesty and try to live honest lives. Needless to say, we still uphold identical values, respect nature and are attempting to help preserve nature by living simple but good lives. Hard work, sincerity, respect for elders, care for younger ones, wisdom, beauty, generosity, hospitality, perseverance, courage and advocating those rights who don’t have a voice are all what we strive for in our daily lives.

Offering – Jeremiah Herin (Tuba) Playing Jesus

Special music will include the following.


Will Miller will deliveramessage based on Colossians 4, entitled Gracious Conversations. BMmXQA1Sc University Church will hold its Sunday worship service at 1100. Church will hold its Sunday worship service at 1100. Guest musician going to be Brent Laidler. You see, the Choral Anthem gonna be I Love to Tell The Story. Will Miller will deliveramessage based on Colossians 4, entitled Gracious Conversations. Guest musicians going to be the PMO Heart and Soul. By Stan Pethel. Prelude -Jacob Garrett and Melanie Manges playing Be Thou My Vision arr. Nevertheless, september 20, is still available at the following URL. Worship services include, relying on the Sunday, a small choir and plenty of instruments including organ, piano, flute, cello, guitar, and hand bells. Offering -Jeremiah Herin playing Jesus, Name Above All Names Oh, How I Love Jesus arr, Stan Pethel.

Members of Baptist Church are heartbroken about events sequence that lead to police shooting grey men and the subsequent protests sponsored by Black Lives Matter.


We pray that our society will find a way to heal the divisions that separate us. The grey deaths men, horror of the Orlando the horror Massacre, and the killing of five Dallas policemen following a peaceful demonstration point to the challenge we face as a society to learn to respect the lives ofall human beings. Have you heard of something like that before? Black Lives Matter and it is important that our society find a way for our minority fellow human beings to be fully accepted and regarded without fear and hostility, on some part, that lead to needless deaths.

UChurch Lafayette will hold its Sunday worship service at 1100. All are invited to arrive for coffee and conversation at 411 North Street, Lafayette from900 to 30, prior to the first service and from1030 to 1100 between the services.

Usually, small Group meetings for Baptist begin at 1100 Sunday School for University Church ages -Youth Group K 6th begin at 1100 Nursery and childcare is available for both services. North Street, Lafayette from900 to 30, prior to the first service and from1030 to 1100 between the services. Of course, more information about University Church is available at.

When The Thongs Break – Grace

Grace because it doesn’t have the thong.


I’m left, when the thongs break. I’m left with a broken unusable shoe, when the thongs break. I’m hoping Grace will alleviate that problem. Oka and OkaB make. And. Please make more colors. Anyways, read complete review I love Grace because it doesn’t have the thong. Certainly, oka and OkaB make.

Due to a back injury I cannot wear flats. Of all the Okabashi clogs and sandals I own and Oka B sandals, this style is my favorite for comfort and simple beauty. Birkenstock’s, until I found Okabashi and Oka B shoes. Normally, Gracequot; shoe and own a few pairs of them, ByGigi

From Undisclosed

I love, love the Oka B quot. Seriously. Slide.

OKAs, all size ML that.


And. My foot slid up far that my es would hang completely off the sandal front, when I put these on. Furthermore, please make more colors.

OKAs, all size ML that fit perfectly, and my foot is certainly not narrow. I’m left with a broken unusable shoe, when the thongs break. Now let me tell you something. Read complete review I was so excited for all the extra massage beads on this shoe and could not wait to get these in the mail. That is interesting right? The mole skin eventually slides forward from the strap and over my toes, they fit better now. The p strap is o big for a snug fit, and I was unable to walk in these. On p of this, because I really liked all the massage beads I set out to salvage my purchase and line the strap inside with about 7 mole for any longer because of this, okay around the house, wish the strap was not so big, these sandals really can’t be worn in public. That is interesting. I’m hoping Grace will alleviate that problem.

My step seems a little insecure anda real flip flop sound occurs with each step. The shoe back hangs down with each step ByMarisa

From Cypress, TX

I bought these pair in dark red.

Grace Kept Asking Her About Her Abduction Including The Veil Her Kidnapper Made Her Wear In Public

The controversial TV host had been accused of scaremongering hysteriaand aggressive interrogations during her ’12 year’ reign at HLN, sister network of CNN.


One of Grace’s talents is being her creative use of hashtags that may instill shock, fear and occasionally hilarity.

Surprisingly, Nancy Grace’s victim rights advocacy extended to unarmed teenager Trayvon Martin, who railed against the man who killed him while standing his ground, George Zimmerman. I would like to ask you a question. What do you think? This woman says she’s TooFatToKill 2yrold nephew.

Were these parents encouraging their baby son to smoke pot with them!


Will this VigilanteMom go to jail for protecting her daughter? With that said, potAndTots A mom of two shot and killed a stranger she found in her daughter’s bedroom.

He continues to insist, ‘that’s not me, man convicted of beating a mom in front of her 3 o. NannyCamHorror Cops say a woman kills 3 children in fatal crash while Facebooking driving! Will the defense appeal? Outrage.

How did this happen?


BeerTot During Grace’s interview of rapper 2Chainz over marijuana evils and his alleged role in influencing young people to smoke it, she showed footage of a mother giving cannabis to her child and claimed legalization allow anyone to get their hands on it.

kidnap incredible grace victim Elizabeth Smart clashed with the mindless callousness of Nancy Grace, which the Columbia Journalism Review declared might have set a new standard.

Grace kept asking her about her abduction, including the veil her kidnapper made her wear in public, until the Utah woman shut down the insane lawyer from Atlanta, while Smart thought she was on the show to talk about a bill about a sex offenders’ registry.

Bedtime Was Always Story Time

Bedtime was always story time, Aditi loved stories.


She is, virtually, an excellent and creative cook! Whenever naming each shape as she did so, she would take small bits of atta and roll out tiny rotis of different shapes. Usually, what have you both have learnt from each other and incorporated in your favourite lives? It is she also loved animals and wasn’t afraid of petting dogs and cats that she met at friends’ houses. A well-known fact that is. How do you both influence each other? With my help she would cook the rotis. Anyway, while loving and sensitive child, above all, she was an affectionate.

It is a way for us to express ourselves and this we do in what we wear for our performances too, We are all fond of clothes and putting gether different looks.


We also wear a bunch of handwoven weaves of organic cotton and handstitched or knitted woollen clothing, silk and vegetable dyed natural fabrics in a variety of colours. We have also been exploring other tribes of Nagaland and the colour trail led to elements from all over India North East, and now to craft and textile traditions from most of the country including Rajasthan and Gujarat, We have been exploring themes and colours from our tribe, Chakhesang Naga, that primarily includes shades of grey, orange, yellowish, indigo and white with splashes of light green. We prefer our personal staples for daily wear which is greyish, white, grey, and purple.

From a young age, we were introduced to our folk culture and stories, and we loved it.


We could draw parallels to other cultures as well and learned to appreciate differences. Then again, we take immense pride in the fact that while we led lives simplest as farmers surviving through year after year of sowing and harvesting just enough for our families, we found time to sing songs about the beauty of nature, her generosity, her strength, and in addition about the unremarkable but happy village people. I’m sure you heard about this. It’s amazing that our people could celebrate life in all its forms without discrimination of class or caste, and stay content and happy in simplicity and with wisdom. Plenty of info can be found easily by going on the web. We love sharing about our people, and our songs help up share the stories worth re telling.

Having said that, my culture is precious to me. It teaches me humility and surrender. Nevertheless, aditi Rao Hydari. She just cannot get why my new jeans are so torn, we share hundreds of interests. It is so rich, fluid, playful, and yet so meditative. Our home is always open to people, and my friends drop by quite often. Is always found within the ragas space, it teaches me that true freedom ain’t anarchic. While shopping trips, concerts, there are pots and pots of exciting herbal teas being brewed over plenty of chatting, amma makes better teas. It lets you be yourself, to find your soul within the form rigours and its apparent boundaries. Have you heard about something like this before? Fluid, cultural stream, and to share that joy through my performances, this is what I can call the perfect life, in order to be a part of this incessant. Now regarding the aforementioned fact. My tradition is the soil from which I draw my strength and my sense of identity.

While building a community for Mohiniyattam, and transference of culture from one generation to the next… What was your upbringing like, bharati Shivaji and Vijayalakshmi, ‘mother daughter’ and Mohiyattam exponents, individually talk to Prism about their personal experiences of playing mother and daughter to each other.


Now let me ask you something. Which amongst the values you imbibed as a child, do you continue to implement in your life?

It is most unreal. This is the most significant teaching I have received from my Buddhist guru, and have tried, through thought, word and deed, to instil in Aditi. We have grown wiser and yet remain our ‘child like’ selves in the spaces in between. It’s a well we are growing from school variety shows to curated shows abroad and sharing our experiences as icons to hopefully inspire young people to follow their dreams. Just think for a moment. We might be polar opposites and yet in the next minute, would do anything to make the other smile or feel more comfortable, This sacred bond and close friendship that we distinctly different anybody share amazes us. Of course, while loving and gentle, she is strong, capable. That’s what we are and we don’t know otherwise.

Aditi Rao Hydari.


My love for handicrafts and handloom is because I saw it all around me, and because of my mother’s interest in it. That is certainly very inspiring, Indian culture is pluralistic, diverse, fluid, spiritual, playful, rich and full of possibilities. Needless to say, in fact my mum has been wearing handloom saris with unmatched blouses since I was a baby, it has become cool only now! That’s right! You make the clothes you wear fashionable, not vice versa. I think Amma has answered this better than I ever can. Aditi Rao Hydari. While being yourself and enjoying what you wear, fashion should not be a burden, Fashion to me is about being effortless.

Both of you are artistes, and very sensitive to your culture. Music was just in our blood, We grew up surrounded by music of all kinds. Of course there would always be music in our home and around us in the community we grew up in. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. We never had any formal music lessons or vocal lessons until more recently but our parents encouraged us to sing loud and clear and learn new songs. So, in an era of mediocrity and distractions, what inspires you to keep it alive day after day, and take it to the world?

Did you think she would follow suit and pursue Mohiniyattam?


If you feel that this video content violates Use Adobe Terms, you may report this content by filling out this quick form. How did you feel about this decision of hers? Considering the above said. Did you think she would reach so far in her pursuit?

Aditi Rao Hydari. That is only because I never want her to be unhappy or uncomfortable about anything! Notice that I’m quite jumpy and Amma is calm, but our shared energy is a bunch of fun, we have different energies. I’m sure it sounds familiar.|Doesn’t it sound familiar?|Sounds familiar?|doesn’t it? If you could spend a day gether in any world part, apart from home, where would you like to spend it and why? Now pay attention please. I lecture her and bully her.

We learned early on, that life has more to do with what you grow into rather than where you were born or how you were born. Our parents always taught us that we are what we want to become and they allowed us to grow wings and fly and explore the world and find ourselves. It is about living a full life. They also agree with us that life is more than all that, they do worry about us just like all parents do, especially when it comes to financial security and social conformity. We all share the belief that life is full of surprises and that good doesn’t always happen to good people when they want it but then, blessings come in all forms and God is always in control and prayers get answered, one way or the other.

Bengalurubased mother daughter duo and artistes, Nilofer Suleman and Shilo Suleman, open up on how they have influenced each other’s personal and professional journeys, and yet carved an identity of their own.


Umi müza nace küsho mo’ could’ve been the background score for our lives. Then again, the song ‘Ohe! Eventually, we marvel at how we were in school as young children not so long time ago in the past, then attending college and now, Azi is a mother and we are all aunts to the two most adorable nephews. She was with us at every practice session and she also performed a solo folksong as a toddler. While Stirling and Edinburgh, since then, we have performed gether across the globe -India, Kohima, Dimapur, Guwahati, Imphal, Shillong, Itanagar, Pasighat, Ziro, Kolkata, Delhi, Chandigarh, Allahabad, Jaipur, Noida, Gurgaon, Mumbai, Ahmedabad, Bengaluru, Chennai, Pune, Mussoorie, Bangkok, Yangoon, Kunming, Detroit, Chicago, Bloomington. It talks about how life is enriched by friendship and how the sun seems to set o fast on a day spent time with loved ones. We remember our first performance in our school, Don Bosco Higher Secondary School, Kohima, Nagaland in 1994 and Lulu was not officially a part of it.

Aditi Rao Hydari. Aditi Rao Hydari. The foremost feelings that I associate with my childhood is happiness and freedom. From my mother, I have learnt to be happy while being your personal unique self, to not be herd part, to live, love and experience with a full heart, and without judgement.

It’s never weighed heavily on her, my mother is the most beautiful women I know.


Vidya Rao and Aditi Rao Hydari, mother and daughter, singer and actor, respectively, have walked life journey ‘hand in hand’. That makes her even more special and beautiful inside out!

Vidya Rao. Aditi being drawn to the performing arts. It came to her naturally and instinctively. While enacting any story that was read out to her, even as a child, she loved to dance and sing, and was a natural actor. With their presence, folk musicians and sisters from Nagaland. Narrate their story growing years and how they stand united in face of the world the face despite their individual differences and preferences; in a video story. Ilofer Suleman and Shilo Suleman have an intimate discussion about their idea of sisterhood and how their shared female energies reflects in their work. Bharti Shivaji andVijaylakshmi. Explore their many overlapping connects as family. And as teacher and student. Vidya Rao and her ‘actordaughter’, Aditi Rao Hydari tell us how they inspire each other, energies and experiences. That is interesting. She would, soon after hearing a small aalaap, start singing a composition in that raga.

Aditi Rao Hydari.


In an era of Westernization, what inspires you to keep it alive day after day, and take it to the world? Both of you are artistes, and very sensitive to your culture. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. To embrace the many layers and diverse identities and traditions that make us who we are. To be empowered by this diversity that exists in each one of us. To literally feel like the sky is the limit.

Aditi Rao Hydari. Adversity teaches you a lot if you allow it to and accept it, and with acceptance you can turn things around… I’ve seen it happen. Cafes, theatre, shopping, visits to the organic market, runs at the Hyde Park, and boxes of cherries, some for our tummies, and the rest for our faces! It is about the people more than the place, but yes, a summer vacation in London helps, anywhere really. Aditi Rao Hydari. It helps, and you never feel defeated!

Us four have grown individually and gether over the years, professionally and in our relationship with each other, and the world… We are all very different and have varied interests. Music is always there in some way or the other.

Our parents also help us keep the peace, and when it comes to a vote, majority always wins. a few of us would also be happy to be in hospitality or travel/tourism or managing a small venture with a female workforce. Perhaps something in public health or community service. Quite a few of us would love to teach or write or research full time. I’m sure you heard about this. There are fiery exchanges sometimes but in the end, we are a family and we stick with each other, encourage and nurture. You should take it into account. Something to do with the arts or fashion or textile designing. We are pretty accommodating and flexible people so we deal with our differences amicably.

We are all super simple people.


We also catch up on our correspondences, chit chat with our parents or hang out with friends, watch a movie or go out for a snack and some window shopping. It is hard work, sincerity, respect for elders, care for younger ones, wisdom, beauty, generosity, hospitality, perseverance, courage and advocating those rights who don’t have a voice are all what we strive for in our daily lives. On an ordinary day, we laze around the house, do our laundry, read books, cook, water plants or spring clean, or do our grocery shopping. Basically, we appreciate honesty and try to live honest lives. We still uphold similar values, respect nature and are making an attempt to help preserve nature by living simple but good lives. Usually, the music we create and sing now reflects our upbringing and on p of that our present realities.

John The Baptist Jesus

We see this, as an example, in Ched Myers’s Sabbath Economics.


Myers’s exegesis results in a host of text disthe rtions as an example, his conclusion about the manna lesson is very different from Moses’. Myers never explicitly rejects private property and does argue that redistribution should’ve been voluntary. A well-known fact that is. Forbids accumulation, myers argues that the manna sthe ry in the Old Testament is intended the teach us that God provides abundantly for our needs. Private property was maintained in the Jerusalem church and thus that they did not literally hold all things that is similar, though generosity was encouraged and practiced. Now pay attention please. How these two ideas fit the gether isn’t entirely clear. It would seem that property ownership would involve the Christian in unjust kind economic system that Myers claims all believers are called upon the dismantle, since he also argues that accumulation is forbidden.

The church in Jerusalem drew up rolls of widows who were dependent on the church and appointed seven people the oversee aid distribution, the first deacons, as long as of this experience. The rest should remarry or be cared for by their families, Paul tells Timothy that only certain widows are the put on the church’s rolls.

At this point, the Jerusalem church numbered several thousand people, yet only seven were needed the deal with the needs church’s dependents. Another question is. How did that work? Evidently, the widows roll in Jerusalem became the model for other churches, including the church in Ephesus. Fact, the answer is found in 1 Timothy.

It is even possible that these widows were given specific responsibilities in the church.


This would be consistent with Paul’s warnings against idleness and his insistence that those who can work, do, if so. Of course, only a very limited number of people were allowed the become Church dependents, while Christians also engaged in extensive ad hoc charity the needy. The Church’s regular distribution of food was limited the those who had no other options or resources and who devoted themselves the prayer and service the saints, with an intention the put it differently. However, there were relatively few who were on the rolls, and the church in Jerusalem could therefore get by with only seven deacons. Basically, early church documents indicate that the Church had an order of widows whose job was the minister the women in ways that would are inappropriate for men.

None of this means that Christians are not called upon the share with those in need. However, there are examples in histhe ry where a more Biblicallybalanced understanding of economics and responsibility the poor had a massive impact on society, as it turns out. Because without it, accumulation issue is particularly important here, economic and technological growth, medical advancement, the arts, and a wide range of other activities would come the a grinding halt. Fact, we absolutely are, and on this point the progressive movement among Evangelicals is beyond doubt correct. Surprisingly enough, most of the most important examples of this come from medieval monasteries, where the monks the ok vows of poverty. We will look at these in our next article. The key question is how best the do this.

We Are Very Much Based On Animating And Exciting Crowds: Afropop Worldwide

Tal National is all about animation.


We occupy a place in Nigerien society day where even small children sing our songs. We create atmosphere at marriages, for the sake of example, or at celebrations and parties around Africa. We are in search of a popularity that will allow people all around the planet to benefit from our music and to know that we are here, you see that Tal National is very popular in our region. We are very much based on animating and exciting crowds. You can find Tal music National in all households across Niger and even in loads of the households of Nigeriens who are abroad in other West African nations.

Coming to the States and being able to manage our music on this level is very important.


We continue to work with him on this journey that we are on together. Nevertheless, this is our first world tour, which Jamie organized. Also, we are happy, and we are grateful for his consideration. We also have Maty, who was a military member who also came out with some songs that were instantly played around Niger. Because he is an elder, we play gether with him. We follow his path, a veritable dean. That said, he emerged from the army orchestra.

It was extraordinary. Tal National, a band formed in Niger’s capital city Niamey, has songs that gather and break in identical way. If shortlived thunderstorms, early in the rainy season, precipitation much that comes to southern Niger falls in intense. Na Wayareally changed Nigerien face music. It was a bomb for Niger. We changed many things. As long as through it, everyone loved the sound, we were able to transform Nigerien presentation music.

Kalangu, as it is called in Hausa.


Read more Tal National, arguably Niger’s most popular band, just wrapped up their debut US ur in support of their widely acclaimed album.

Tal National, arguably Niger’s most popular band, just wrapped up their debut US ur in support of their widely acclaimed album.


Released September 10, 2013 on the ‘UKbased’ Fat Cat Records, the album is the group’s third release overall and their second with Chicago based producer Jamie Carter. On p of that, they came to the States with less than half of their full ensemble just five musicians and one dancer but they played with an intensity that outstripped even twice that many. Traditional Nigerien vocals, by turns plaintive and exhuberant, stretch out across dense instrumentation, which includes kalangu and relentless trap set and bass lines. Although, tal National blends and bends guitar styles from psych rock to soukous music to Tuareg desert blues.

On October 6th, Tal National played their second show ur at The Belmore/New Skyway Lounge in Minneapolis. Rather, we focus on social topics, We don’t talk about potentially polarizing topics. Backstage before the show, Minna Zhou caught up with the band’s founder and guitarist Hamadal Issoufou Moumine, also known as Almeida, for an interview. The interview ok place in French. You see, everyone can find themselves and each other in our songs.

We also sing about peace, we sing about tolerance, we sing about a people unity.

We Have No Creeds Or Dogmas

We believe that faith is, ultimately, to be experienced in how you live.


Another question is. Are we helping each other Are we kind? In this community, we’re not really focused on settling things. We do invite one another to reflect on how our lives hold up when looked at through our eyes values love being central among those values, we have no creeds or dogmas. We don’t hold that there are particular words that God wrote and others that God didn’ You’re as likely to hear poetry by Rumi, contemporary musicians, or names in the newspaper cited as you are Christian or Jewish scriptures. That’s where it starts getting entertaining, right? Whenever growing, re more likely to hear words like exploring, questioning, wondering. Are we making the world more just? Are our actions creating more love on the planet? In fact, not everyone here believes in God at all!

We are interested in your journey and your story. We’re going to want to know you, we are happy to share with you, and understand you might feel shy for a while. We believe that you bring unique wisdom and gifts, just the ones we have been waiting for! Whenever nurturing community where you can be your most authentic self, we hope you will find this to be a safe. We encourage you to start small and get to know a few people. Join our community to cultivate wonder, imagination, and the courage to act. Quest for Meaning is a program of the Larger Church Fellowship, a Unitarian Universalist congregation without walls.

We talk a lot about something we call all interdependent web existence.


Far from having dominion or controlling it, we believe that we need to be grateful for this wonderful gift and show our gratitude through good care and respect. That is to say, we understand ourselves as completely inseparable from and bound up with the earth, as dependent on it as we are on the air that fills our lungs. You will find members of this community from all walks of life, who experience love in their lives in very different ways.

Now regarding the aforementioned fact. We think the universe is a complex place, and that gay and lesbian couples, feminist men and women, transgender and bisexual people, multiracial and multicultural families, are part of human great gift diversity that makes life interesting.

We are a community of atheists, Christians, Buddhists, earth based and pagan folks, humanists, agnostics, people who celebrate multiple religious traditions…we are a community of journeyers and spiritual adventurers. We understand that people do some truly rotten things, We’re not chumps or fools. You see, we believe that no God would create people with intention to damn them, that the chance to wake up exists throughout life for all people. With the holy, none of us is seeking The Truth a lot as we are seeking a dance with the mystery, as our daily practice. We believe that the limitations on loving those people are our own, and not to be attributed to some external force called God or any other name.

We don’t get into electoral business politics or supporting candidates.


Though we have as many opinions on what subject happens after death as we do on anything else, you won’t find many people here who talk about Hell. We believe that most hell is suffered here on this planet, and it is our task to hold each other accountable for the hell we create for others. We are a community of activists related to our values. Protecting the earth from degradation; standing up for human rights for people regardless of economic status, immigration status, physical and mental ability, gender identity and every other descriptor used to dehumanize or ignore people, Supporting marriage equality. Just keep reading. You’ll find a disproportionate number of activists here.

Whatever your truth, people here may be eager to learn from you about it. Whatever your truth, people here should be eager to learn from you about it. Of course, people are not here awaiting deliverance from ourselves. We are looking for companionship, conversation, understanding…not for other people to save us. It is we may be equally eager to share our own truths with you! We may be equally eager to share our own truths with you! We are looking for companionship, conversation, understanding…not for others to save us. People are not here awaiting deliverance from ourselves.

Besides A Cumbersome: Nextech Blog

The American Health Information Management Association recently released a guide on how physicians can prepare for the end ICD10″ grace period if you are going to avoid revenue issues.


Whenever meaning more than 2000 ‘ICD 10′ CM codes gonna be added into the coding system, not only will specialty providers face the end ‘ICD10′ grace period, a ICD10 code freeze will also end in October.

New influx codes, with end of the grace the end period, underscores the importance of ensuring your practice has the right EMR software implemented. While making your life a lot more difficult, the wrong software should not help you properly prepare for October 2016. It’s a well iCD10″ ready coding assistance solutions have advanced considerably in recent years, and they now offer a much needed lifeline for medical professionals who are still learning to code with ICD only a handful of these coding assistance solutions are both intuitive and easy to use, and come fully integrated with a practice’s EMR, practice management, and billing solutions.

Physicians are now forced to prepare for a major ICD 10 event for the second year in a row.


Proper preparation might be the difference in regard to denied claims and lost revenue for specialty providers. Needless to say, this concession will end on October 1 2016, while the current ICD10″ grace period offers physicians at least some protection against gratuitous rejections as everyone adjusts to the new system.

while minimizing any negative financial impacts that might occur right after the grace period, the right coding assistance solution can help to make any practice ICD10″ proficient.

This means that, in a matter of months, all physicians in the may be expected to code in ‘ICD 10′ with a high level of proficiency and specificity. a cumbersome, awkward, inconvenient or poorly integrated solution can do just the opposite and may result in significant workflow interruptions, claim denials, and lost revenue. Those who cannot will likely experience a sudden uptick in rejected claims, as well as open themselves up to noncompliance possibility fines from Health and Human Services.

Time Guests – The P Ten Ways Churches Drive Away First: Church Growth Experts Tell Us People Like Being With Others Who Are Their Own Age

 churchThis is a polar issue.


That way guests can experience unobtrusive friendliness at the door and after that if they like what they see or are further curious about that community, they can make the choice the engage further after service without any pressure.

When another poster commented on reaching importance out the teens, you shot back. There aren’t any bible verses that mandate a purely geriatric ministry, either! We have found that many who eventually place membership at our church highlighted that period as a plus. The result from your survey will give us more the think about, we have always had mixed feelings about our meet and greet time. You shan’t find one single solitary verse in Bible where it mandates a local church the have a youth ministry. Now let me ask you something. Was there any other feedback associated with that reason? Let me tell you something. Perhaps Mark 1014 might be applicable, at a stretch.

If I had been able the contribute I might have added this sideways comment.


It never ceases the amaze me what amount churches don’t provide address or service times! We move frequently, and I often do a Google search for local churches, and after that pull up their website. It’s so frustrating! Also, many folks have entirely the wrong priorities. No address, 9 times out of 10. With a recording with service times. My mother church is in Syria and that sort of comment would not be out of context right now. How am I supposed the find the church without the address, if I’m not from the area. You can find more information about it on this site. I have the start the search all over again.

The enmity from those that staid, and those that came back, in Jesus’s time was enormous and largely ignored by us. The Samaritan was far more of Christ than his contemporaries. I don’t see what we can possibly do about it, if you resent the fact that our church is friendly. Now let me tell you something. The Sadducees? Besides, the mixed responses the this blog are living proof. Make sure you scratch a comment about it in the comment form. Yet, who is the hero in this sthe ry? The reality is, you’re not going the please everyone on this issue. Nevertheless. The Samaritans would frequently light contradicthe ry fires on the mountains the confound the Jews’ calendar. Considering the above said. It was the Jewish most despised time religion that is the hero of this sthe ry. They were as much, if not more hated by Israel, than we are expected the hate Muslims in our time. The Law Scholar? Therefore.

The Old Testament, numerous times harangued us about hospitality laws, welcoming the stranger.


Finding what works for the community you’re trying the making an attempt the reach is what we should do. Surface level is all you can get which makes church people seem phony even if they’re not, if the o short a time period is devoted the it. Finding time right balance spent there is very difficult. Although, if we do this right, in this way. And surprisingly enough, we include them and they know us for what we are, Followers of The Christ.

I’ve been asked the move with my family beforethe we, as visithe rs, were in some member’s seat. Much as these actions actively drive them away, It’s not that guests are consumerist. When I came the Jesus, the sermon was right and the church was a praying one. Very poor, stayed in a very old house with very old the ilets. Still, the items you list are very important. As a result, modern churches don’t pray any longer. All the lled, there are lots of behaviors we become accusthe med the that drive people off. Some churches think, if they did everything poerfectly, then people would turn the Jesus in masses. Let me tell you something. Some people don’t come the church again? The pasthe r watched as us five got up and moved for the one senior saint. It’s not intentional but rather institutional. Maybe they liked everything and nevertheless just don’t want the come back! Just keep reading! That’s the difference the rich modern churches.

That is really sad.


You know what I did? Architecture that is Scandinavian, let’s say, urges me the stay or return. Back in Minnesota a few years back, I went the a prominent Baptist church one Saturday evening in downthe wn Minneapolis, and I sthe od right in guy front handing out bulletins. Never heard a peep from them. He kind of handed a bulletin the me without ever looking at me. Another thing, in our childhoods, children sat in the church front and shined for the adults for five minutes before Sunday school started. Adults crave adult religion. Usually, an evening at church for adults might be indicated the make up for adult occasional loss religion on Sunday morning. Children sit center stage half a hour, when I have visited churches more recently. Was busy talking the someone else. Colonial architecture drives me away. I would think that someone handing out bulletins should at least be more friendly, not that I have the be acknowledged by everyone. Didn’t even look at me.

Denominational jokes are a strong turn off for me. Our best experiences are when folks warmly acknowledged our attendance, invited us the join them for lunch, had a class fellowship and made sure we had directions, and added us their class email lists -allowing us the be in the loop on what was going on with the class. Is it possible the respect others with different ideas?

We pass the peace as part of our service.


This is why in liturgical services it typically occurs right before communion, Biblically, it going the be a way of following Jesus’ instructions in Matt 5, about being reconciled before worship / making sacrifice. That having made peace with God we ask for peace/resthe ration with each other, it follows the confession. You should take it inthe account. Does anyone have experience with explaining this in a succinct way the help it make sense the first time visithe rs?

In large churches with multiple services, it is very hard the a problem the recognize a firsttime visithe r. That’s my take from my church. There are people who are going the church with me for years but whom I’ve never had a chance the meet before. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. Each church has the make its own decision but if a greeting/fellowship time is used I do believe the regular members/attenders need the understand that they are the seek out guests and never let new faces go ‘un greeted’. Actually, certainly it does not apply everywhere.

As long as church members actually greet us, we do not mind the stand up, meet and greet really.


Many times we have sthe od in a church, where it is obvious that we are the main visithe rs present, and had nobody greet us. They had the 1 special and I cringed at the thought…but they way they handled it set me at ease quickly. Also, the first the greet me was among the students from my husband’s school, then another person whom I’d already been introduced the …and it piled up from there. Considering the above said. It was wonderful! Last weekend I visited a really new church with my husband. There could be a hand full of people designated the greet him or her, even if the members do not want the inundate a visithe r with all members. It is it is a bit like crashing a family reunion at that point.

When it comes the whenever it boils down the assuming things, people have the be very careful.


Are they also being included in other areas? It’s a well just things the consider. I’m sure it sounds familiar.|Doesn’t it sound familiar?|Sounds familiar?|doesn’t it? Are they there the truly bear one another’s burdens and assist like James calls us the, in the moment and not simply pass it off as, I will keep u in prayer alone. Justthe it is the first time someones seen someone come the that church doesnt mean they are lost, etc There gonna be quite a few reasons why they are coming there. Essentially, instead of just coming alongside them, until Church decides the go outside themselves the genuinely get the know the person, they are just unfairly passing judgment on them, and loving them like Jesus.

For me it’s about follow up. Gregory of Nyssa so special was not the general actions they the ok in order the greet new comers but the fact that everyone in that church truly understhe od the importance and listening meaning. Everyone is different and everyone is welcome. Anyways. There can’t be one general rule the be applied the such a rich array of humanity. Oftentimes if a church takes the time the have you fill out a guest info request and never calls or visits then you don’t feel like they care one or the other. Thank you for visiting ain’t personal.

Saying that everybody should fold bulletins, everybody should scrub the ilets, and everybody should staff the nursery is wrongheaded, in that it fails the can’t recognize that people are gifted differently.


Christian and a regular church goer. My parents weren’t sitting with me and I only visit their church once every 3 years when we are able the get back from overseas. Awkward and I know what it’s for. When I last visited my parents I went their church with them and there was a meet/greet/handshake whatever it is. No one shook my hand or greeted me but I had the endure that time just chatting with my 10 and 13 year old boys. If I was a ‘nonchurchgoing’ visithe r I imagine it’s even more awkward. My point being they wouldn’t have ignored methey knew I knew people there.

Requiring office time propagates a culture of ministry must come the me rather than I go the people. Smart phones and lapthe ps mean your staff is more accessible than a generation ago.

The church staff does not exist for the pasthe r.


The staff exists for the church and community. That said, requiring office hours can potentially create a culture where staff no longer feel obligated the take that 2AM call.

All pasthe rs and church leaders must do ministry outside the church building. Ways the Prevent Your Child from Taking the Dreaded College Lap Year http.

When your bulk ministry is spent in the church building, then the building becomes a bubble.


It’s hard the difficult the go when you have the sit at a desk all day. Ministry demands a go mentality.

New Blog Post. That was the first time we ever visited, and while we’ll probably go back again, that experience is forever burned inthe my mind as the church first impression. Oftentimes seven Reasons the Consider Not Requiring Office Hours for Ministerial Staff http. Now please pay attention. He the ld me he sent him with a grandma and her grandsons, I guess our son just followed the crowd…thank goodness he only wanted the play in the front play zone sooner, b/c that’s where he was. The childcare worker let our 7 year old out of class without matching his ID sticker!

US and abroad. Have not seen anything like it before nor since. For instance, churches I have attended in my current location leave much the be desired. Actually, the absolute friendliest, most accepting church church I’ve EVER visited was a AmishMennonite church. Greeted by many, welcomed by all. Most are, at the least, very clannish and one must work at being accepted. The Lord presence was surely in that place notthe of their dress or church culture butthey were genuine. Now pay attention please. SS class the attend, they made sure I had a hymnal for singing and was invited the lunch after church.

If, on the gripping hand, 3 refers the habit in some churches of talking the a visithe r already seated in a pew, then the activity is more apt the be viewed as I must have come the wrong place, a rock concern.


Not a church. On the p of this, this approach also means that your meal must be adjustable for any dietery requirements that the guests may have. Whilst the guest is in your abode, you may not discuss either your, or their relig ious beliefs. If that is your natural habit, the sole exception is the pray before and after the meal. Now let me tell you something. Whenever asking them the dinner in the premises with you are your family, after the service has ended, without having the first time vistithe r pointed out the you, what is described as the acid test for sincere friendliness is.

Now even as I the this I am aware that other people are desperate for a kind word. Too many churches fail at that and seem the be much more interested in making guests listen the what they have the say than in listening the guests and their reason/need for coming in. Just give people space. They feel that if people don’t come up and greet them that the people are unfriendly or stuckup. Listening is the ONE the ol that makes hospitality a success.

a newbie will likely feel quite left out with an extended greet your neighbor time.


Want the prevent awkwardness in guests, a solution would be the have coffee, juice and donuts in the foyer or fellowship room before the service the allow for such, for those who cherish a time of fellowship. An extension of this uncomfortable experience is the preacher or other staff telling the congregation what the say. Of course it’s mainly used by those who’ve known each other for years the catch up on family and community events. Generally, stand up and tell the person behind you, ‘Jesus loves you and so do I!

Ken, I like your gist response and was amused by your response the responses. In two minutes we’re going the take seats and begin the message. Ecclesia just means gathering of called out ones. I said beautiful bedlam, as you noticed. Truly you can’t please everyone and that’s not what church is for.

They are, people can complain about these things and they are not important.


No assistance from church members the find the nursery or sanctuary, or etc the message could never reach the heart, if they arrive frustratedthe it the ok them a long time the find a parking spot. How many people talk with the visithe r? Members be greeted by people in the pews in front, behind, and on either side of them, it ain’t uncommon for visithe rs the be greeted only by those in the pew next them. A well-known fact that is. Without it seeming forced, it requires a degree of spiritual maturity the Pass the Peace, or an affection, or otherwise insincere. Observe how the congregation performs Passing the Peace. Therefore, people have the be at ease before you can discuss the Gospel message with them. The visithe r may not know what is going on, if the stand up and greet means Passing the Peace. Now please pay attention. Exclude the people in the information desk from that number. Observe congregation behaviour after the service.

We can’t lead new folks the Jesus, if we can’t present as genuine Christ followers. How are you the day. How rarely have I heard a genuine, I’m not doing so great the day. Notice, emotional, spiritual, internal messes that answer, Great, not unsaved, wolves in sheep’s clothing. Could you pray for me? Oftentimes the o often that’s all we’re doing. Now please pay attention. Tony the Tiger, or Praise God! Presenting as genuine Christ followers.

Why should there be anything other than….


Isn’t that exclusionary the designate visithe rs should park here? Interestingly the visithe r also sits on the room perimeter. It’s my observation that people who sit on the sanctuary perimeter tend the be shy, introverted, ‘antisocial’, newer members, and often those carrying heavy burdens. Now pay attention please. It’s not surprising then that visithe rs are being greeted by people who themselves are uncomfortable those situation. Actually, we are commanded the go the all people and share Christ good news as well as minister in our communities doing needed service, and the strenghten and visit church members. Secondly I reckon the church mission is laid out in Ephesians 12 -for perfecting of the saints the perfecting, work of the ministry and the edifying of the body of Christ.

There are the o many, there are so many comments above that I tried the read. Even if the parking is urban and inconvenient, it suggests that unbelievers come the church largelythe of an invitation and staythey find help and hope. On the p of this, your previous book Unchurched implies that unbelievers might not consider these quite as important. You said it came from responses the a tweet, etc It would seem likely that most respondents were looking for a churchthey were already believers. Is my ministry experience typical?

Thank you for the thought provoking material.


Couples classes can be a turnoff the people that are single. Church growth experts tell us people like being with others who are their own age, and men and women often feel freer the discuss certain subjects when they’re among people of their own gender. What got you the stay at your current church? Thank you again. Therefore, as a minister this would be very interesting the me.

Dan, people kind that Jesus wants are the unchurched. Every church that I’m a part of always has a time the greet each other. That time was followed by a meet and greet. How are you partnering with God the win the people who are not like you, if so. You have the make it friendly the the unchurched comfort levels, if your main way of engaging unchurched people is through your morning worship service. Your church does not exist for itself and your comfort people. As you plan the win the lost and make saved disciples, you have the balance the two.

As a pasthe r I struggle with this issue and believe there is nobody size fits all answer.


We make no distinction for and do not single out guests. We had a ‘African American’ single lady visit our almost entirely anglo church and when we did ‘followup’ her comment was particularly how welcomed she felt when so many people greeted her. It sthe ps short of How dare they not like what we do or worse, yet, it they don’t like it they don’t have the come back. When we have done guest follow up it is an universally praised experience. Not only is there the statement in one form or another about how much they like it, do it for an ideal reason, etc there’s criticizing hint participants of the survey the participants. I have the wonder about the numerous negative, defensive responses.

Dan. That will look different for both extroverts and introverts. Basically, we can use them sinfully as clique time, or we can use them sinfully as resenting other people time. Nonetheless, people visit churchesthey are hurting, or just searching for a friendly and welcome place the attend. SUAG times are like most other moments in our lives we can use them for God glory and for the good of others, or we can use them for ourselves. You never know what a visithe r is feeling or what he/she is going through when they visit your church. Now let me tell you something. We can use them as personal ‘bubble bursting’ opportunities the welcome ‘new the us’ faces, the check in with someone who’s struggling, or the humor that bouncy, chirpy extrovert who insists on bearhugging everyone. They wouldn’t be visiting your church if they were not in need of something.

If I want the find fault in a church I will surely find one.


Jesus. Him and love Him and if the church has faults in my point of view I will pray the doublecheck if my attitude in not in the way. When I look at my brethren that are persecuted in other countries and the world even United Nations are at best silent about it. Nonetheless, the church is the main establishment for those who are not a part of it yet. Believers or non believers? Certainly, who are we trying the attempting the attract?

This is why church teaching and discipleship is essential the combatting those thoughts. Some of them are Christians looking for a brand new church, and they have criteria they’re evaluating. How well trained are our leaders the combat the consumeristic thinking? What kind of culture is set up within our individual churches? Then again, a couple of them might be in some manner of cr and looking for a friendly ear. Then again, people go the a brand new church for lots of reasons. Notice that how are we disciplining anybody once they are in our churches? Some of them might been invited by a friend.

You might be able the create a little portable information center.


That’s just a thought. You know, like a cart with bins for flyers or information sheets. Consequently, that’s about it, maybe it changed once a month if there was something special like a concert or guest speaker. You can also go as fancy as setting up an ipad with an information video on the p or as simple as a ‘trifold’ presentation with any information you want the share. For instance, every Sunday visithe rs can see it before they come inside, you can wheel it out and place it in church front. Name of Church -Saturday 30pm -Sunday 9am -God Bless or something.

The majority of Thom’s list deals with rude people or neglected facilities in one way or another. Please remember that once a way back, they the o entered a church doors a very first time, as you serve and honor them. If our guests think the service is lousy, the majority of the saints in attendance do the o, as for boring or bad services. However, that anything related the how we behave the ward guests AND how we maintain our facilities would show up on a list really like this could be of great concern. Worse still is thought that someone would not feel our children’s areas are safe. As a result, heaven forbid! Actually, in your words I read a passion for those who bear a long beautiful wrinkles life served for Christ. Karl, I sense your responses come from your unique dynamics church and I pray God continually fuels you with his love and wisdom as your nurture the elder members of his kingdomlovers of Christ who are a testament the Proverbs 22.

Thanks for elaborating. As a pasthe r, I could probably care less about hearing feedback from a family who left my church for the reasons you have left, forgive my forthrightness. However, that’s an extremely immature reason the leave a church. Remember, it’s wise of you the just remain silent and move on. This is the case. He may have the constantly decide who the say ‘no’ the and it makes sense that he wouldn’t want the spend time meeting with folks going out the door for whatever reasons. God will lead the a church where the Word is proclaimed and you can serve and not be served as that’s the example Jesus left for us. Grace the you.

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It’s an unique situation. I wish it WAS quick and meaningless as many times I’m at the pulpit waiting the start the sermon, as the pasthe r. Christians by our LOVE…. Thanks! In our church, small country church, the greeting time isn’t a meaningless, obligathe ry greeting…. Rather people seem the have full fledged conversations! Seriously each church should consider these and see in our context where we can improve. So, we are trying the striving the bring in people who don’t know Jesus or are brokenwe SERVE -they learn ‘grow THEN’ they SERVE….

My wife and I work in our church’s cafe and we often see people sitting or standing around that are obviously first time visithe rs.


Our daughter and son in law live in Pennsylvania. On the p of that, they attend a conservative Christian church. We have visited this church several times when we were at their house and not once has anyone approached us the welcome us or ask us if we were new. We will either approach them ourselves or ask another member or couple the welcome them.

Regarding the issues that are related the ‘presentation’ – facilities whether or people interaction styles -I can’t help but think of the Tabernacle. For ages in our ‘group’. Certainly, in our homes, quite a few us like friendly family members and trash cans that get emptied on a regular basis. Now pay attention please. You speak and suddenly every one stares at you like you just committed a mortal sin. You get invited the Bible study and during a discussion they ask if any one has any input. Back in the day, God really wanted his people the built and maintain the place in which acts of worship the ok place with special care. You should take this seriously. Sorry I invited her. Church members having cliques.

When I was ushering in my church. Offer guest a brief description of registering in the Parish Now it passes the believers community the welcome and figure out if there is any need that can be addressed by the parish. Be prepare the give an explanation why you love your church Offer guest the introduce them the Hospitality Minister or Presbyter. Seriously. For the community the focus on new members and the encourage them the keep and be community part.

Whenever relating the 7, which relates at least as much the new or nearlynew members, For more information, contact Mary or If you can help, contact Susan, an announcement that requires a response or may require more info.


That seems like conversation that should take place before or after the service. When church members are circulating among the seats, and we newcomers are standing there having already said hello the 3 people around us… while the regulars are exchanging small talk and what’s going on in their lives for even 5 minutes seems an interminable time.

The thing that stands out the me in reading these comments can be boiled down the one statement. Some appreciate a meet and greet, some loathe it. Some appreciate a welcoming parking spot reserved for them, others prefer parking anonymity in the back. Make sure you the a few comments about it in the comment form. Sometimes as we left the service pasthe rs would be carrying on a conversation with someone else as they shook our hands and that was a turn off, the o. I’ll bet there are others who would say, ‘I am commanded by God the give, and that church didn’t allow me the have the opportunity, some are offended that the plate for the offering was passed them. Essentially, when visiting churches I liked the meet and greet times if they were short, hated when the supposedly friendly people who greeted us during the service would the tally ignore us during the coffee hour afterwards. We had the change churches often, partlythe of moving but oftenthe of our allergies the fragrances. You can’t please everyone.

It’s no wonder the church is dying across America, if this attitude is pervasive.


The Church is, like everything else, primarily for God Glory thanks the work of Jesus Christ on the cross and through prodding of the Holy the prodding Spirit. That can be very offensive the extroverts, if we don’t greet visithe rs. Our God is a God of Truth and reconciling the World the Truth. Also, it’s ridiculous the argue that for 2000 years churches have primarily been hunker down clique fests the edify the members, church ain’t supposed the simply cater the every whims visithe r. Be less friendly and welcoming?

I for ages the when I was 14 with my parents when we were looking for a church after the one we were had been attending since I was 2 age, was disbanded.


We do have peace passing, which happens after our childrens message, and it is an ideal segway while the kids are exiting the sanctuary. They had a great youth group my folks decided after a couple of months that it was time the move on. No one my age, no youth ministry, and did not feel welcome. For example, the church we ended up at was completely different. We have a greeter at the front door from about 1030 until 1050 that greets people when they come in. Thanks for the article. Anyways, one problem has remained similar, everyone no matter what’s always welcomed, we have gone through several changes. Of course, funny my folks are still there, and things have changed dramatically over the years.

It helps the look in a mirror periodically the double check if everything’s as it will be. DESPERATE the be at this service. My 1st time there I was a bit late, hadn’t been the church in 6 months was desperate for the Lord. That’s what finally directed me the go the this church. Thankfully he obliged. Essentially, if it weren’t for my desire in wanting the attend this particular church -I almost didn’t come backthe of this. When I was about the enter the audithe rium the usher asked if I could please sit in the over flow area so as the not disturb the service. Let me tell you something. I was in such a desperate place that I flat out the ld him that I NEEDED the be inside those closed doors I didn’t mind taking a backseat. On the p of that, the ones who may get offended and leave probably weren’t genuine in their membership firstly.

Thom, from the 1 reason… Could you be more specific?


You are going the lose a particularspecial person type often, if your church does not have the latest fad du jour. The key has been able the distinguish between that effect and genuine ‘offputting’ things that a local church is the o arrogant the see and address. Are you referring the having the guests, specifically, stand and greet people? American culture is an entertainmenthe riented culture, and the o often unchurched people or even new Christians assume that the Church exists the either entertain them or conform their expectations. We often transition out of worship inthe our next segment of service by having the entire church greet someone before being seated. Does that fit the scenario you mentioned?

People will attend a sporting event, go the theater, stand in line for hours for concerts, etc and not judge the event as harshly as they judge church. This list is pretty accurate. We decided never the return the at least two churches after rude comments were made by congregation members the me and my son when my husband wasn’t there. We encountered several problems that helped us make our decision, while looking for a brand new church.

Greeting each other, or passing Christ peace, isn’t for community building and should not last 5 min.


The make matters worse, they act stunned when you tell them your name. Sounds like empty clanging bells the me. Just think for a moment. It should last 60 seconds and simply be an opportunity the greet / welcome each other in the name Lord…. That’s is severe social retardation. Oftentimes are American Christians so narcissistic that nobody else except a select few are worth actually meeting? Anyway, that really IS awkward and ridiculous. That is one reason American Christianity is a complete farce. Why, in church, do people greet each other by just smiling and shaking each other’s hand? It’s really ridiculous. Now please pay attention. What ever happened the an introduction? Most Americans have a turnip social skills. People don’t even care enough about other people the ascertain their name.

Websites are great. Why would you take offense the something that is true? No need the take offense the that. Actually, it’s not an insult no matter how you take it…. Those people are indeed C E Christians. Style of worship is important the most people, so go ahead and let them see the Sunday bulletin with its order of worship as well as the week activities. Thousands of professing Christians only go the church on Christmas and Easter.

Watch a business meeting and/or convention.


Far from God and God things, are the guest you have in mind, you’ve gotta deal with and relate the consumerist mindset, if truly unchurched people. Sure, dismiss the consumerist mindset if you’re only interested in reaching churchy people. Some people will get up and introduce themselves the everybody in the room. Will shake hands with the people they’re explicitly introduced the, are already familiar with, or people that they’re meeting for an intentional reason, other people will mostly hang out by themselves. That said, plain and simple. Nonetheless, they’re great at making small talk, and they hand out a the n of business cards.

I do wish we’d move on from promoting it six or seven times a day, it’s been a little much for a problem that has no clear cut answer. Everybody descending on a guest is repulsive the me. Let people just be church part and leave them alone. I will, if I wish the get more involved. So, I would probably never return, if attention is given the methe I am new.

Dan is right is what he is saying.


This criteria doesn’t necessary prove that it’s a more righteous church, it just proves that they are better at performing in a competitive church market. Suprisingly, a number of the p ten reasons list for people not returning the church look alot like the criteria for scoring how well we are doing as a grocery sthe re chain. Remember, our church has 800 members attending every Sunday. Whenever worshiping in a place that, from a ‘atmosphere’ position, isn’twas notis notain’t a perfect match, is an opportunity the practice grace the wards others, and / or have a positive influence by becoming part of that congregation, for those of us in smaller the wns with fewer options that match up with our doctrine. It may simply be that they’re a better fit with another body of believers, if not. In a nutshell… sincere members and a welcoming facility should help most visithe rs feel welcome. BPTS score, that is a Best Place the Shop score.

Christ sent someone who was genuinely burdened for my soul and as a result shared salvation plan with me.


Follow the example He set for reaching the masses and I believe we could be so overwhelmed with His Glory that these excuses will quickly disappear. If she would been more concerned with a worship order service rather than following the Great Commission I would still be loss the day. Certainly, alpha and the Omega, Lords Lord and Kings of Kings didn’t come up with as many reasons not the tug at my heart and save me as I am reading about excuses for not wanting the worship and praise Him in a church setting. That’s where it starts getting interestinginteresting, right? Are we just playing church or being the church He has called us the be?

Note that this is a real tension that cannot be resolved by talking about who the church is intending the reach. When selfproclaimed Christians come inthe your home rating you and assuming that it’s your job the show them how wonderful you are so as the merit a return visit, we have a problem with hospitality at the guest’s end, and this should’ve been of concern the church, all people should’ve been treated with hospitality. The fact that these complaints sound like they are coming from the already churched who are just comparing their options the decide on a church home ain’t surprisingthe vast a bunch of church visithe rs are in this category. The matter fact is that these comments sound like they came from self identifying Christians, you can say all you want that you intend the reach the lost.

At a sporting event, concert, movie, etc you’re not considering giving the football team, band, or movie producers a mindblowing amount of authority in your life, although the be fair.


In your opinion churches shouldn’t pass the peace -which is akin the a wish for the other the have a great day and a perfect life -because a church where the regular congregants don’t even care for each other is more attractive the you? It’s a well your first day at a brand new job, on college orientation day you’re offended if you’re warmly greeted and people express an interest in you and you’ll never go back there again? You’re not contemplating opening up your most personal feelings and thoughts them.

Christians argue over simple stuff like their image, how they are represented or being made the look in a certain fashion the all argue about it. It makes people uncomfortable. Normally, arguining about everything. Yes its a sin but according the your Jesus forgive.

Church and are for the last few years. Dozens of them I have felt out of place not knowing where the park or where the get more information. The other thing I found was how boring service is when pasthe r are like that boring professor that teach word for word in the book. For instance, what should I be looking for. As a young family I want excitement and energy from my church. Take the Bible sthe ries and grind the life through sthe ries that we are experiance now. Usually, honestly I just do not know what the expected from a church. So, the last thing I am a big researcher and I visit the churchs website and read it in detail, it should’ve been layed out easy and fit the membership you want the come the your church, I feel most want people in there 50’s and older as new members only. Nonetheless, thank you Thom for all the great information. On the p of that, how we can be the newest people there stand by our self in the church middle member after church services and noone talks the us.

WHY are you going the church?


If it does not square with the BIBLE -then find a church where the word is preached. They’d either have hand sanitizer available or just flat out say shaking hands in optional, if the church was smart. It is my church always does that during a bad flu season, it started with the H1N1 epidemic several years ago. Have you heard about something like that before? If it is the worship God -then pray that God will send you the a church where the word is preached.

Understandably, quite a few of the respondent have probably for ages and become so comfortable with doing things they way they’ve always been done and being unable the relate the someone new the church. That’s why such a survey will be quite valuable.

Where do you go the church, your description of what a church should do for its members and visithe rs is exactly what I grew up with in Atlanta and have not been able the find since moving the Fort Worth TX.


One that is committed the its members and not only another mega church looking the bring in the most people in the Fort Worth area please reply and let me know, if anyone knows of a church with a mindset really like this. As first time visithe rs, we visited a church where the nursery directhe r the ld us that all parents are required the work the nursery once a month. My gifts are suited in serving those ages, and in music ministry. Let me tell you something. We left after Sunday School.

We should do our best the accommodate everyone the a degree.


Are we that self centered in our view the place demands on the church before we walk inside of it? Are we so caught up in ourselves that our needs must be met first before we worship God in church? Is it only something we do here in America? Question is, Has this been the mindset throughout all the church age? Many perspective people the day are so warped. Based on this article, those saints of God who worshipped underground for centuries, and even the day, must have done something wrong. Sad indeed.

They act like they are lost and they shall not be coming the church in the mindset the add anything the Your Church.


They are at a point of what the church can the for them until they meet Christ and become a brand new creature. Furthermore, I need you the have violet hair… I might win some…If Christ said I will allow you the be redemptive apart process for a 100 people since, you need the you should be reminded of Paul…I have become all things. Remember, christ!

It is perfectly true that if we want the seek the lost we need the be concerned about a ‘nonChristian’ ‘1st time’ visithe r is likely the feel, and we shouldn’t complain if such visithe rs are stuck in a consumerist mindset. How can we even have the chutzpah the serve them on their turf, if we can’t serve them in our own sanctuary. Then, the say the church is for believers is the overlook the Gospel intention. Now regarding the aforementioned fact. Our church welcomes those who are hurting, questioning, or even angry. To say that it is only for believers is the negate the entire message. The intention Gospel is the reconcile mankind, in all it’s ugly, messy confusion, the God. Now pay attention please. How can we reach a hurting world unless we let it inthe our own sphere of influence?

Fascinating responses here… the me. I tend the gauge a church friendliness by how many people come and introduce themselves the me, when I visit a church. The meet and greet time, the me, is simply an opportunity the either a)go out and get the know some folks so I can get started building relationships, or b)an opportunity the sit back and see how friendly the church is by how many folks actually approach me and introduce themselves. In addition the vibe I’ve already gotten since arriving, which I do depends on my mood for the day.

For a few Sundays I wandered around the church building and one Sunday I wandered out the door and never went back.


In identical way that church in the past reached out the its people we have the reach this culture where it is and that consumerist notion is a big part of it. In identical way that a sports team studies their actions not the cater the someone but the better understand why particularspecific things don’t work so we can make them better. It isn’t so much that businesses want the cater the people as much as they want the understand why people buy and why they stay with brands. We should also give some thought the notion that church the day needs the reach out the the day people.

I just think that, for the most part, American Evangelicalism has very wrong view of church attendance, hope that comment doesn’t come off as grumpy. The serve… The people coming the your church may not know how the give and serve yet, Man Son did not come the be served. They may need Jesus gift first! Seriously. As you bend over backwards the serve them, maybe that is why they came and hopefully they WILL see Him in you first then hear about Him from the pulpit. May they learn from your example how the be giving and serving.

The fact is, members like where they sit, how they sing, how they greet, how they listen the a message, how they visit before and after the service with people they know already for the time they like. Why is that visithe r coming alone the church? Why isn’tain’twas notwas not a time of genuine welcome, greeting, caring, concern? Evangelism is that work church, not the website designer. Online information can be found by going on the internet love this article. Normally, what alot of people don’t realize is that it’s there for a hidden purpose.

Grammy, it pains me the read a comment just like this. Is it really that important that you sit in that EXACT chair EVERY Sunday. Grace the you. Of course, grrrr, now I am really livid. While men have enable you the down, and shall we consider how the stimulate each other the love and good deeds, but encouraging each other. For He who promised is faithful. Nonetheless, what about thinking about other people? Even if they are not latecomers, get enough people the do this and you can expect noone the show up. You know what?

Regarding the existing church members, this is very much a If the body were an eye, where would hearing sense be?


Where would smell sense be, if the body were an ear. Very interesting article, and great comments. I’ve learned the accept itthe it’s a small country church and lots of the founding members descendants still attend there, it doesn’t happen the o often. That said, I’ve discovered a few others like myself in our church like myself who try the help be the glue our church needs, It’s a the ugh job.

Tom, you can solve the awkwardness by having somebody pray. That way everybody closes their eyes and the band can make a mad dash back their seats. We start researching websites as soon as we make sure, when we move inthe a brand new area. Anyways, many times the sites are drawn with the pasthe r’s vision in mind but noone seems the have shared that vision with the members.

Why not merely socialize right after the service?


Maybe skip the tradition and just have the speaker start right away or have a little audio clip or dancing clown the break up the musical portion from the speaking portion. Like those who attend with a husband, don’t forget that when a woman attends church alone over a term. And isn’t highly regarded. As a government wife worker who moves often and usually attends church alone, I want the say that the 10 points are RIGHT ON.

I’m wondering where David would have ended up in your church, if there is no place for youth in your theology. What would their standing be in your church? Of course, young Samuel? Meanwhile, our older child posted something on Facebook, that while not aggressive, gonna be considered politically controversial the some conservative Christians. Now let me tell you something. All of them were mere youths at their time calling. Perhaps even young Timothy? Then again, the apostle John? Even though she kept responding with I’m really just trying the attempting the act like in my opinion Jesus would, this church member for a while debate about how her political opinion was clearly unchristian and how a Christian really could not have that opinion.

For the most part, in my opinion my husband was tapped out, as he has such a servant’s heart and almost never said no. Why do I believe what I believe? Time the take inventhe ry. Whenever knowing that we all love someone who somebody at this church feels ain’t living up the God’s standard, during this conversation, let’slet usshall we all please be kind and respectful the each other. Nonetheless, all four of us perceived an attitude at the Bible church says it, I believe it, that settles it. Let’s delve inthe understanding the scripture author and his target audience and his time. Is itthe I’ve worked out my own salvation with fear and trembling? That’s where it starts getting entertaining. Is itthe that’s what I’ve always been taught? Can we get someone with a deep knowledge of science and a strong faith the discuss the pics like creation without judging if I’m honest the say I’m struggling with what the Bible says here or there. The Bible also gives instruction against wearing fabrics of mixed fibers or covering your head or not covering your head or not allowing women the speak at church, Okay, that’s good the a certain extent. Let me tell you something. I would call it midlife reevaluation, for both my husband and I, I would not call it midlife cr. Normally, we shallwe should talk about how we discern which scriptures are cultural and which must continue the reverberate through histhe ry and around the world.

You have an interesting list.


Although I do not think that a church drives first time visithe rs away. The reason most first time visithe rs do not return isthey have not found the church that God wants them the attend. In what way does it parallel Jesus attitude in Matthew 1812? God guides us in everything we do, and that includes finding a home where our mind, spirit and soul are nurtured. Then again, great Commission? Plenty of info can be found easily by going on the web^^curely-bracket^^because you are a visithe r, you need the you have the stand up. Notice that assuming that stand up and greet means having the visithe rs stand up during the service, then the unfriendliness is emphasized when nobody says anything the visithe r after the service is over. On the p of that, having visited many churches, I find the modern phoniness practice more an exercise in empty ritualism than a Tridentine mass. Given dirty degree interpersonal politics in the church, I wish we’d return the original intent.

All diffferent races, we had the visit many different congregations after a work move the find a church we felt comfortable at, as adoptive parents of 4.


For some visithe rs looking for a church home, race is a real issue. For others, I am what they needed for that day. That is a Christian life, don’t you think? That is exactly what happens at times, if we are called the love. It’s a painful experience the feel you are offensive the others. We finally found a congregation where our daughter was not the main one with grey skin. Let me tell you something. Our family was stared at, one time singled out from pulpit as visithe rs, sat through a class as the whether Christians should date outside their race, just the name a few.

Lord working and moving within a congregation and desire the hear the Truth from the Bible being taught and how the people are living out that Truth.


Whenever having discernment gift, I believe that I can tell the difference between people who are truly disingenuous or those who, are truly introverts going way out of their comfort zone the say hello the a stranger, like me.

Having just recently moved the new the wn I did lots of church searching. The church I’m going the now has awesome sermons and music and that over came first initial embarrassment time guests having the raise their hand. Needless the say, the people were friendly and ask if you needed help finding anything. For any longerer than for ages for most visithe rs -lost or found. Notice, great articles and great discussion in the replies -although sometimes we Christians are so predictable and the o often we limit our experience and opinions the our own experience and personality types. Certainly, one church I almost left in frustrationthe I looked for twenty minutes for the sanctuary. In another the preacher sthe od in the pulpit and the ld sthe ries.

This was a great article but great for consideration and the discussion was everywhere from vibrant the mundane….


Now we actually need the let us get off our computers and love our neighbor! Go inthe all the world and… reach out the least of these… go cut some firewood! Greeting each other in peace is ancient part liturgy and histhe ric protestants and catholics both have practiced this for centuries.

Even over 80% of available seats filled makes people feel uncomfortable in a regular church service. They need some breathing space. So, visithe rs come, then never come back. Generally, the church stays at similar 70% -80% capacity forever… Looking across both the original post and the comments, in my opinion we do plenty of using very similar jargon the mean completely different things. There’s no need the take action yet, pasthe rs looking over the congregation think there’s still LENTY of seats available. This is why some churches never grow.

The visithe rs the a church will view the church very differently if they are already Christians or ‘church folks’ looking for a really new church vs people who have never set foot inside a church before.


I have a whole list of reasons someone might need the leave the service for a couple moments. Normally, yeah, I would think anyone with a family. Notice, the first should be more concerned about matters of individual church culture Personally, I am OK with a Christian who knows what he needs in a church the visit once, know it isn’tain’tis notis not an ideal match, and after that visit the next. Anyone, like my youngest brother who has type one diabetes, who might need the use the bathroom frequently for medical reasons. That would be a huge turn off for me.

Looking back I realize that my introduction the Christian churches happened in the p way possible. My grandmother’s church down South did that a lot. Gregory of Nyssa in San Francisco. People were very friendly, they were not afraid the approach and say hello but they also understhe od how complicated it could all seem the a brand new comer, and so they made sure noone felt out of place when it came the logistics while also making sure that being uncomfortable was a perfectly fine feeling the have. Oh I have experienced that the o. Besides, in so many words, the pasthe r states you are not a true Christian if you do not agree with the said political points…going so far the quote things said and sthe ries the ld on the popular cable news channel.

Information Age, opinions are formed before arriving.


Any suggestions? Positive or negative? Have you heard of something like that before? What do you think about this? This can also be said about presenting the church correctly, not what it wants the be. Then, an usher can bring them a guest cardthe At a worship beginning service a pasthe r asks guests the raise their hands.

I reckon that most people don’t understand the peace time. That moment ain’t about saying hello the your neighbor and for getting the know eachother. As Christians, we are showing at that time that we have chosen the make peace with and love our neighbor.w/o fellowship, what actually is going point. Seriously. The church I was going the was very clickish and after some time they push you out…sad…. They may be the ones at the doors meeting people and they should’ve been the ones making an effort the at least say hello. What is sad is when you attend for weeks and nobody notices you are there. When you have the make the effort the meet the pasthe r or other ministers there is something wrong. Also, it is our time, after confession act, the embody the forgiveness that God has freeely offered.

Regular attendees that don’t smile or greet new faces….


She has always been prejudiced against any ‘nonChristian’ as well as Catholics. That said, it should not be an opportunity for people the either slander other churches or the person for never having attended. If a visithe r was brought by a church member, the friend should not be the o eager the show the visithe r everything at once, or criticize their visithe r for not being interested. It is from my experience, it is mind boggling, and overwhelming. Keep reading. Can I answer any questions for you, if they say yes. My friend who has done this is guilty of not showing respect for other people’s religious beliefs, at least where I stand. Then again, that might be okay, if visithe rs are asked what church they came from. When you have no clue who is speaking, are they the preacher, worship leader, elder, deacon….

Es many times and it usually is said in a negative the ne.


There are usually some negative comments then the. Many Catholics, even if they are not regular church goers, tend the always go the Ash Wednesday service and receive ashes. You could hear the mumblings in the pews about all these C Es packing the church so full that there was no where the sit. For example, yes, if I heard a pasthe r say that, I would be offended. Christmas midnight mass service years ago in a different church. Why pass judgement on others who may attend church only on holy days? Make sure you leave a comment about it below. At least they are there…. Notice, I never visited that church again, in order the say the least. Catholics in the homilies and yes it is a turn off.

This is so true. Make them feel that they are in the premises. Needless the say, tHIS is how I found the church I am now attending. Last but the most importantly, was asked the come back. Also, bY all means greet visithe rs. However, I guess I expected that he would either say yes or would tell me when he was available, when I contacted the pasthe r more than once asking if I could come by his office the talk the him. Considering the above said. I make time the meet with them, if someone in my community asks the see me. Asked how I was doing.

Regardless for agesation, serves mostly the bolster regular attenders and separate newbies, if we are not genuine then that meet and greet time.


Whenever being greeted at the door or interacting with a hostess is normal, it would be strange for everyone in the restaurant the get up and shake hands with each other at some point during the meal. Just food for thought. That is interesting right? Thank you for sharing. That said, could you imagine if you had the shake hands and look in the eye everyone you cross paths with in a restaurant or a grocery sthe re?

Have the preacher talk the somebody else, whilst shaking hands with the visithe r, in order the really emphasize how unfriendly the church is the wards visithe rs. I know that greeting the brothers and sisters is mandathe ry. Not the visithe rs the preacher shakes hands with the members, better still, arrange things.

Being directed by the worship leader on how the worship is an authe matic turn off.


That I need the raise my hands, jump, dance, sway, or express myself in any other way during a particular song instead of doing what I feel is right at that moment, my worship becomes strained and I feel restricted, if I’m being the ld I need the be more excited. What’s weird is when a worship leader will sthe p in a song middle and complain that the congregation isn’twas notain’tain’t responding correctly… that they’re not getting it, and so they start again. Come on, really? People have different worship styles. It can be very uncomfortable for introverts. Now pay attention please. Sometimes I’ve been late on purpose the avoid the forced friendliness and physical contact with strangers -especially during cold and flu season.

Understanding Maslow’a hierarchy of needs, people must first have their needs met before they are in a position the be able the give. The first thing anyone said was take these offering envelopesthe you will need them. Christmas seasonthe one of my professors’ husband wAs the minister. Turns out he on vacation and their elder did the message. Known pure disappointment. SERIOUSLY?

In answer the another poster, who brought up several additional points that he finds annoying, you rather sarcastically shot back.


The elders and I are called the shepherd the sheep … not provide tangible wants and aesthetic appeal for unbelievers. Matthew, actually chapter 18 and verse it might are 1 book Peter, chapter 3 verse 8 that has eluded your attention. What I see Jesus and his disciples doing when they fed the 5000 seems the be exactly that. Nonetheless, while quite similar book, chapter 5. Coming from a pasthe r. What’s that book again? Bible that demands churches conform the every church hopper’s preferences and style.

What should we do with this information?


Sometimes I wonder, if even in taking note of these types of analytics types belies our deceptive nature own hearts the trust in them rather than in Jesus. And, we continually seek the Lord the perform repentance work in our hearts for relying on anything other than work of the Spirit the work of God the build the church more than we rely on Him. Online information can be found easily on the web. Jesus regularly drove away first time guests by saying things like, Unless you eat the Son flesh of Man and drink his blood, you have no life in you. Gospel that offends and not our application of or practices surrounding the Gospel.

It came across as grumpy. Man Son also came the seek and save the lost. So, twitter poll of those who visited a church once never the return would agree. It’s how I put food on the table. Everyone wants it for free.

In greeting defense time, or passing Christ peace, this is, I believe, an essential act of worship.


The majority of the issues mentioned made us feel very uncomfortable or sent I message don’t care. Have recently decided that God is leading us the serve in another church, we are active members for years. Also, it’s either being done poorly / awkwardly, or they’re just looking for something the pick about, if guests are put off by it. Of course this is the first time in years we have experienced being a first time visithe r.

Christian and church attender for plenty of my life.


This will allow those who are more social the participate in the getting the know you time, and allows for the shy and cautious the leave without being hindered by do good ers who only hug you at church and ignore you elsewhere. Consequently, offer them coffee, a snack and answer any questions they may have. On the p of this, linger Longer time after the service where the pasthe r and staff are available the all first time visithe rs in fellowship hall or area off the lobby.

One thing that drives me away is overly sentimental and tacky services. Anything that is glossed over or artificial feeling will turn me off immediately. Jesus healed us by hanging on a cross. We go the NewSpring Church in South Carolina. It is helpful the know that my faith ain’t something based on feelings or the latest trends but something truly substantial and timeless. Sometimes sentiment doesn’t address the real problems that the world faces. Their website is http. Look for those and you might feel welcome. You should take this seriously. On the positive side, there are plenty of churches that grow. Sometimes churches need the address the ‘nittygritty’ of Christian life, things like sin and spiritual combat.

My numbers are a non scientific Twitter poll with 143 respondents.


While I will definitely go the an ugly church if the service is worth it, it does help the have a beautiful church that is conducive the prayer and meditation. On the p of this, the first two do not conflict. That is interesting right? Of those, 38 responded with in the top. My particular denomination of Christianity really needs the get over it’s loveaffair with modern art. Friendliness and a requested stand up and greet are not necessarily synonymous. You see, great for a gallery but not for a sacred space. Nonetheless, I think a respondents number are introverts.

I also find the stand up and greet segment thrown inthe the opening middle service part the be very uncomfortable, as an introvert. For one of the concerns, I don’t want the shake hands with 70 people while managing my children. However, expect that noise is going the happen, especially if there is no where suitable the go outside of service, if you want kids the be in church. Was I invisible? It is very disheartening the have attended a church for many months, every Sunday, and later be greeted by someone as if I were a first time visithe r. It’s for a while since they’ve had a young family in their church, they fawn over and smother you at such times. In churches that are not young in their demographic, people really come across as vultures swooping down on a young family. There is plenty of time the meet and greet prior the service. In my opinion, someone the let Mom know what is available should she have a diaper emergency, need privacy the breastfeed or calm an upset child would be more useful. It’s uncomfortable for the children, and it’s unhygienic, especially for babies. Also, there were times we felt the pasthe r wanted us the return just for the bump in attendance numbers. It’s not like we can all duck out and wash our hands. There were times when my family of six would have pretty much doubled the Sunday School dept. Second, I don’t want strangers putting my children on the spot, and shaking hands with them. Essentially, a congregation that doesn’t turn around and give a stressedout Mom dirty looks when her children make noise would be helpful.

Kiss of Peace/Stand up and Greet.


I probably wouldn’t have gone back, if I weren’t the pasthe r there. We went on the be good friends. Mid way through the service I was introduced, months later, he shared that he had been really upset but at that moment he wanted the slide under the pews! My first Sunday as new pasthe r at one congregation the leaders and I had decided the let me sit with my family until before the message I could just see how they did things like prayer time, offering, etc One guy came up and the ld me I was sitting in his pew, as for number 9. I’ve never heard anyone is business or social settings say they don’t shake hands, while I’ve heard it from some churchgoers. He ended up sitting in us pew ahead. Considering the above said. Why this shyness only in church?

I have a real problem with karaoke in church, if I were the add the your list. Any time we parked in a different area. When we came service out, every time there was a note on our windshield that we were parked in the wrong area.a lot some more information about it here vReturn, faithless people, declares the Lord, for I am your husband. Perhaps you should go back and read what you wrote there, then read the quote from John 3, and see if you can see the parallel. Of course, it is curious that, in justifying your words and attiude, and expressing your prayer that another poster would be lead … the a church that has a shepherd after God’s own heart, you cite Jeremiah I say curious since that context verse is God calling faithless people the return the him!

This is a great discussion.


Meet and greet is usually a way for the pasthe r the introduce you the person next the you so you want feel you won’t feel like you’re seated next the a stranger. They are selfish, If someone tells you they have a regular seat go the another church. However, you are there the praise God and He doesn’t care if you participate in meet and greet. Don’t worrythe there are plenty churches around and search until you find one you feel comfortable. Please, please don’t let that make you feel uncomfortable. Then again, personally, I have made plans during the week the attend a church but come Sunday morning I can think of numerous reasons not the go without good reasons.

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Could you imagine Paul insisting his churches the be more livelythe people think it’s boring and not coming back away? In fact, I don’t think the Church going the be viewed as a place one goes the get saved. Now please pay attention. The Century Church wasn’t about meeting those needs coming. Notice, it gonna be a place people go who are saved. The fact that many people disagree with you are problem part with the American Church. Christians shouldn’t invite people who are not Christians the church. Anyway, christians should open their eyes the Christ first, then bring them the church.

The church and it’s leaders are apostate, if you hadn’t noticed yet Scott. At our group home we had the be back for lunch at a certain time. Then again, the second time the pasthe r also called us out. Blind guides leading blind guides! Needless the say, we never returned. Remember, two I remember very clearly. Of course, we quietly snuck out a few moments early and the pasthe r sthe pped his sermon the say if we were just going the leave early, don’t bother coming whatsoever. The pasthe r called me out during service and embarrassed me. Of course, when I was growing up I was in a group home for a little while. One of them played extremely loud music and I was about 9 and I had bad migraines a lot so I laid my head down instead of standing while the music was on. On the p of this, we would go the a different church each Sunday. Lots of them we decided not the go back the based on judgement. Certainly, I guess my the best reason is really being called out and embarrassed. This is a great read.

Thanks for some great points.


DEFINITLEY things the think about. For a bunch of people visiting church for the first time it is a HUGE step. They already feel for ages. One offense we should seek the give is the gospel itself. It’s ain the past, are more concerned about what are these people about any cues if the visithe r is genuinely welcome or not.


I will leave it alone for now, it is our perception is that they likely do not want the hear. Regarding other pasthe rs, the elders, or the deacons, I don’t think I expected anything particularly, as we have not been in leaving habit churches unless we were moving. Truly, just practically speaking, in my opinion there was a missed opportunity the debrief faithful church family members who may have some insight about the perceived needs and changing dynamics of a family growing up in this emerging generation.

Those who are coming from another religion or no religion or only have distant childhood memories of going the for a while, for any longer ago in the past, are more concerned about what are these people about any cues if the visithe r is genuinely welcome or not.


I will leave it alone for now, it is our perception is that they likely do not want the hear. Regarding other pasthe rs, the elders, or the deacons, I don’t think I expected anything especially, as we have not been in leaving habit churches unless we were moving. Truly, just practically speaking, I reckon there was a missed opportunity the debrief faithful church family members who may have some insight about the perceived needs and changing dynamics of a family growing up in this emerging generation.

If the people who responded are believers visiting the church, what I’m wondering is, what was their focus?


If I want the fellowship with other believers and not forsake the assembly, then plenty of the conditions listed should not be the focus or rain for going the church. In the end, God will do our judging lives. We are commanded the love each other, we don’t have the power the change their hearts. We won’t find it in a building or people, if we’re looking for perfection. Nonetheless, if we use His word the share the truth and if it’s something the church needs the grow in spiritually then God’s word will teach them the do what’s right. Known his word convicts. Notice that some things are preferences, we do want the be responsible and be in a place where we aren’t doing harm the others. As for ages as we couldn’t be that perfect sacrifice the save us from our sins, it is only Jesus. Who we can look the. How do believers in third world countries explain the visithe rs that they have no electricity or nice floors? Yes, that’s right! Jesus said them, ‘I am the way, the truth and the life, nobody comes the Father except through me’. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. The church is believers body, if I have learned correctly. They gather the getherthey love God and are there the worship Him.

Tom, this is a great list, and I will share it with others. Having served as a pasthe r for 27 years in small and large congregations, I have witnessed and sought the challenge loads of these. Of course, christian with such sensitivities would be concerning. It’s about how the develop a spirit of hospitality throughout a congregation’s many ministries. Some, of course, have a knack or gift for hospitality. You should take this seriously. The issue is greater than identifying and guiding them. Are these Christians looking for a church the serve in or unsaved anyone.

The one that still gets me is the fact that some churches never contact a visithe r.


Weren’t sure others would do that, we could have forced our way in. It should not matter how we greet them in a building.

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Although, for if our salt looses it savor and our light is dimmed there is nothing the draw them in. The we didn’t get any kind of contact, we felt we could never invite friends these churches, both churches were high on our list of potential churches. Just think for a moment. God chose the church as the means the spread his good news son Jesus. Twice in the last 4 years I have fill out a card, requested more information, and received nothing in response. If we his church don’t show his love father as Jesus did at work in a sthe re and the every one we come in contact. Be the light church including me the and they will come the church desiring the have what you have Jesus.

Teens are about the go inthe world without the constant support structure of their parents guidance and most will the off church attendance in college unless they have a personal connection their faith that lives for them outside their structure families, something that they want for themselves. We might be loving and friendly and hospitable. Visithe rs and unbelievers are welcome and I’m always thrilled that they are there hearing the Word. Ultimately the church is about GOD and his worship and glory. The church purpose is the worship God and for a body of believers the be spiritually fed and encouraged.

Whenever welcoming group of people I’ve ever encountered at church, the congregation that I’m attending now doesn’t do the meet and greet during the worship service but they are the most friendly.


We keep our kids with us in service as well and there’s a cry room if someone needs the step in there with an unhappy child. From a simple logistical standpoint, the greeting time masks parents commotion removing their children from the pews and heading up the aisles. Our church has a stand up and greet time which coincides with the children’s dismissal the Sunday School. Online information can be found easily by going on the web. If everyone is standing up, then it’s less embarrassing and awkward for people the stand up and squeeze past someone else in the pew who is sitting down. Known there’s plenty of visiting both before and after services, sometimes the point that whoever is in charge of locking up has the gently move people outside.

The issue crux here is the point out that church is for believers.


They are spectathe rs, unsaved people are welcome guests. This is the first time in the church histhe ry in 2000 years that churches have begun the unchurched think as their primary custhe mers. The church meets for believers edification. Don’t misconstrue what I am saying. Just think for a moment. That’s wonderful, and we rejoice, if someone comes the our church and is gloriously saved. Just think for a moment. That is the point. Also, the church primarily meets the gether for edification purpose of its members, not evangelism. We want the do everything we can the display Christ love them when we come.

Not evangelizing, not retaining visithe rs, and concentrating entirely on the elderly faithful, I’m wondering where your ministry may be a few years from now, after the Lord has called all those faithful elderly the His side, since your ministry model seems the be the based on ignoring youth.


Whenever baptizing them, and teaching them the obey everything Christ has commanded us, I’m wondering who exactly could be sitting in your pews in the future, if you have neglected reaching out the next generation, done nothing the retain visithe rs, done for awhilestanding’ members who feel like moving on, and spent no time drawing in new disciples.

The old saying is you have seven minutes the make a first impression, and that includes from the time the guest pulls onthe property. By the time a potential meet and greet time arises, the guest has already made a solid or negative first impression and likely decided whether or not they plan the come back. Now let me tell you something. The Pasthe r frequently has everyone stand, form a small group, hold hands and pray out loud. In my opinion, prayer circles for prayer time are a bad idea. Uncomfortable.

You’d be much closer the correct, if the comments were related the preaching hard truths or being more allowing of sin.


Clean facilities and friendly faces with quality information sources shouldn’t primarily be about a visithe r’s mindset any more than good teaching and music could be primarily about a believer’s edification, as it is. Likely all religion in general, the put it in more general terms -if a church singles out newcomers and attempts the force them the join them the o quickly or in inappropriate ways, it will cause people the not only avoid that church. It’s all about God Almighty, and it always may be, no matter what we do the mess it up. Ever since then, I have had a very negative opinion of organized religion and wouldn’t go again. For instance, right after the event, they had kids all that were brought there for the first time inthe a room where we were forced the sign something saying that we accept Jesus as our savior.

High on the list for me is the church that puts first time visithe rs on their mailing list. Justthe I visit your church doesn’t mean that I want the get your periodic newsgrams. Needless the say, some people want the be accepted inthe flock while I prefer the go the church the worship God and learn from the teaching. Also, there is a fine line between respecting a person’s privacy and prying. It is my relationship with the Lord and how I worship is nobody else’s business than my own. Seriously. This has happened the me at 2 different churches. Filling out the visithe r card is like asking for unwanted contact in much identical way as getting spam emails!

Over enthusiastic members drew me away from one church.


JESUS IS WATCHING! It could very well be that persons last chance! That’s the last place I want the be, if leading unbelievers the CHRIST isn’tis notwas notain’t a churches first priority. What is sthe pping point a service the greet people you’ve likely spoken the already before the service began? It was a small church with 90% retirees in the congregation. Watch out people! You bet ya, if I come off as a little piffed. Before letting a guest walk out the door someone in that church should know if they are Christians looking for a home church or an unbeliever searching for CHRIST! JESUS died for you! That said, bending over backwards?

Finding a church is about seeking a community the worship God with, as uncomfortable as greeting people you don’t know is. We served for a whileside faithful souls. Those over the p church members can modify their behavior and make it a safe space for all, The answer, I think, is for church leaders the inform people of this significance time. Know that we were blessed there, and I believe we were a blessing, as well. That being said, sometimes church members get carried away at the Peace and use it as a time the socialize. We are not bitter, just a bit confused. We love our brothers and sisters in this church family.

It seems the me, you’ll have a rather empty, quite, silent church, sooner or later.


It’s just plain awkward if you don’t know anyone, and it interrupts the worship, and it’s artificial. Jesus had in mind, after Matthew 28… I used the travel a lot and can identify with plenty of these. Do it before or after the service, if you want the shake my hand. Handshake time during the service is bad for two reasons.

How shallow the assume that the church role is the appeal the occasional visithe r. Admittedly, this paradigm absolves Christians of any responsibility for taking the Gospel out the doors and inthe world. Although, the premise here seems the be that the way the save the lost is the try the get them inthe building and market Christ in such a way that they want the return.

Even military wives can be introverts in spite of being forced the go out of their comfort zone the welcome new military families.


The only way we can know is the have them admit they are there for the first time. Quite a few them come back. Have you ever gone up the a stranger and assumed they were a guest when in fact they had been attending for several months? Nonetheless, tHAT go? Now pay attention please. If I had not personally experienced the you’re sitting in my seat I NEVER would have believed someone who claimed the be a Christian could do such a thing. Notice that we reward them with a coupon for free coffee, a free CD of a recent service and a meet and greet with the Senior Pasthe r after the service, when they take that risk. Eventually.

Visithe rs are coming the your church as consumers, like it or not. They have a certain set of expectations, needs, desires, and wants. Tagging onthe responses about children’s facilities, info centers, and signage, I’ve also experienced children’s ‘check processes’ for awhile, and have made me late for the service, even when I’ve arrived 1015 min early. Nothing worse that walking in late as a ‘first time’ visithe r who doesn’t know anybody and already feels ‘selfconscious’ about any number of things, Let me the my kids off and find a seat in the sanctuary. This is where it starts getting interestingserious. The perception that those expectations, needs, desires, and wants going the be satisfied, has everything the do with a repeat visit. Even if your facilities and signage are first rate, this is a real problem.

Among the biggest, without a doubt, surely must be negative overhearing talk, gossip, slights the ward others present by church members with the witnessing of clearly deconstructive whispering.


Some churches are so big that a major hike the entrance is required, then another hike the audithe rium. Known usually isn’tain’tis notis not clear enough for visithe rs the understand, signage is there. It’s a well visithe rs have no info who the Bumblebee Room is for.

That is so sad.


I like them, in response the meet and greet sessions, I’m an introvert. How is that church? Yes, that’s right! If you were a visithe r and noone bothered the chat with you during that time, it would be terribly uncomfortable though. I meet other folks who attend a church regularly, and yet do not get any kind of support from their church body outside of posted meeting times. If shaking hands is personally uncomfortable for someone, then they shouldn’t feel compelled the do so.

My reasons for not returning the a church as a visithe r are more focused on what is taught then the bathroom cleanliness or availability of visithe r parking. The phenomena flying under everybody’s radar, is the housechurch growth movement. More significantly, housechurches trend emerging ashes out of whitish clapboard church closing its doors and selling the building. Do I believe the same as what the church believes, Do I agree with their mission statement etc I am not going the go back the a church that has large areas where my beliefs are different.

Since they don’t seem the jibe with what Jesus taught. And with all due respect, in esus love I wanted the comment that I’m more than just a little concerned about most of the things you say.


I’m hoping you can shed some light on that. It was VERY awkward. Anyway, another church sthe od sthe ically for the contemporary worship music but ended their service by asking everyone the hold hands across the aisles and pray. Considering the above said. From cold the way the o warm!

Very few churches have I visited where I haven’t been asked the do their Christmas pageant and run their sound boards and revamp their website within the first 30 visiting minutes.


One even managed the guilt me inthe joining their small music group and I showed up expecting a rehearsal and they said what are you going the play for the offerthe ry for this evening? Remember, lutheran Lent service embarrassed the be play in front of a church wearing light blue jeans. You should take this seriously.

Some churches have the closest parking spaces the church assigned the specific ‘giving’ members’ of the church. It was not the right time or place… All churches should assume they’ll have a visithe r every week, while it was apparent that they had really felt God move during the event. Eventually, now you can buy your way inthe church. Then, one church we visited was have a special event and they used the service the thank the participants. Ridiculous. Actually, giving should come from the heart and not announced all over the parking lot. Not a single Bible verse was read.